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"Based on groundbreaking research that has the power to change the lives of countless children--and the adults who love them."
--Susan Cain, author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts.

A book that offers hope and a pathway to success for parents, teachers, psychologists, and child development experts coping with difficult children.


     In Tom Boyce''s extraordinary new book, he explores the "dandelion" child (hardy, resilient, healthy), able to survive and flourish under most circumstances, and the "orchid" child (sensitive, susceptible, fragile), who, given the right support, can thrive as much as, if not more than, other children.
     Boyce writes of his pathfinding research as a developmental pediatrician working with troubled children in child-development research for almost four decades, and explores his major discovery that reveals how genetic make-up and environment shape behavior. He writes that certain variant genes can increase a person''s susceptibility to depression, anxiety, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, and antisocial, sociopathic, or violent behaviors. But rather than seeing this "risk" gene as a liability, Boyce, through his daring research, has recast the way we think of human frailty, and has shown that while these "bad" genes can create problems, they can also, in the right setting and the right environment, result in producing children who not only do better than before but far exceed their peers. Orchid children, Boyce makes clear, are not failed dandelions; they are a different category of child, with special sensitivities and strengths, and need to be nurtured and taught in special ways. And in The Orchid and the Dandelion, Boyce shows us how to understand these children for their unique sensibilities, their considerable challenges, their remarkable gifts.

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"Seriously good ... I read it with pencil in hand, underlining ideas I wanted to hold onto, or even memorize. [Boyce] is also a wonderfully fine writer. His humanity and warmth inform his evidence-based insights, and his clear strong prose and poetic sensitivity make his stories compelling. The Orchid and the Dandelion leaves me with much to think about, and meaningful encouragement in my own personal life as a parent and grandparent."

--Dona Matthews, Psychology Today

"The Orchid and the Dandelion is based on groundbreaking research that has the power to change the lives of countless children--and the adults who love them."--Susan Cain, New York Times bestselling author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts

"This book fills an important need. Tom Boyce''s elegantly simple characterization of dandelion and orchid children belies the complexity and rigor of the research that informs it. His book shows parents why the same conditions that may be good for one of their children will not be best for the other."--Nancy Adler, professor of psychiatry and medical psychology at University of California, San Francisco

"Tom Boyce is the foremost scholar in the world in the area of child growth and development. I have no doubt that his book will have a profound impact on readers everywhere."--Leonard Syme, professor emeritus of epidemiology and community health, School of Public Health, University of California

"What is so timely about this book is that it brings a fresh perspective to individual differences. The author''s clinical and academic expertise is unique; his prose is lucid and engaging; and he tackles a problem of enormous importance."--Charles A. Nelson III, professor of pediatrics, Harvard Medical School

"Boyce''s stellar research on orchid and dandelion children will help parents and professionals develop greater sensitivity to the needs of orchid kids who are biologically challenged but surprisingly have much higher potential. A must read for all parents, teachers, and psychologists."--John M. Gottman, PhD, New York Times bestselling author of Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child

"A book that must be written, and Tom Boyce is unquestionably the most qualified person to do it right! There is an extensive audience of parents and teachers whose lives will be touched by this book. The well-being of their children and their students will reap enormous benefits from what Boyce can teach us all about the valleys and the mountaintops of child development."--Jack P. Shonkoff, MD, director, Center for the Developing Child, Harvard University

About the Author

W. THOMAS BOYCE, M.D., is the Lisa and John Pritzker Distinguished Professor of Developmental and Behavioral Health and chief of the Division of Developmental Medicine at the University of California, San Francisco. He is also codirector of the Child and Brain Development Program of the Canadian Institute for Advanced Research. He lives with his wife in San Francisco.

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MJM
2.0 out of 5 stars
Orchids who grew up in adverse envirornment should not read this book.
Reviewed in the United States on February 2, 2019
Brilliant research for parents, teachers, doctors and caregivers but it paints a dire future for orchid child raised in an adverse environments with no hope, and even a rather convincing argument that the inevitable solution is suicide. Dr. Boyce does a great job... See more
Brilliant research for parents, teachers, doctors and caregivers but it paints a dire future for orchid child raised in an adverse environments with no hope, and even a rather convincing argument that the inevitable solution is suicide. Dr. Boyce does a great job explaining why, and to some degree how, we should make sure that orchid children are raised in healthy, supportive environments. But he seems tone deaf to the implications of his book, and the example of his beloved sister, for adult orchids raised in adverse environments. For them hope is often the only thin thread holding them to life and his book takes away hope for them. IMHO the 7.5%-10% of orchids from adverse childhoods should not read this book.
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An important book that has helped me understand my self, my family, and friends.
Reviewed in the United States on March 10, 2019
I am an Orchid child who grew up under adverse, stressful circumstances. My youth was characterized by extreme shyness, impulsiveness, severe nail biting, seemingly perpetual knee bouncing, anxiety and many fears. I survived and have mostly conquered this background,... See more
I am an Orchid child who grew up under adverse, stressful circumstances. My youth was characterized by extreme shyness, impulsiveness, severe nail biting, seemingly perpetual knee bouncing, anxiety and many fears. I survived and have mostly conquered this background, through strong academics, athletics and music. This book gave me great insight into my own development. I have, without reservation recommended it to my family and friends, some of them Orchid like and some Dandelions. I think it is mandatory reading for anyone who is thinking about or raising a child, if only to teach them to recognize the sensitivities of their children, and to try some of the suggestions Tom makes to structure your family life around your Orchids. It might help the dandelions understand why the lives of family members, and friends may have failed.

Gratefully,
Richard Eastman M.D.
Former Director, Division of Diabetes, Endocrinology, and Metabolic Diseases
National Institute of Diabetes, Digestive Diseases (NIDDK)
National Institutes of Health.
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gail f hatch
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Finally, the perfect gift for every new parent and all who work with children!
Reviewed in the United States on February 6, 2019
Dr. Boyce invites us to journey with him through 30 plus years of enlightening research into early childhood development as it relates to epidemiology, stress, environment and emotional health. Unpacking the complexities of how children fare through trauma, challenges,... See more
Dr. Boyce invites us to journey with him through 30 plus years of enlightening research into early childhood development as it relates to epidemiology, stress, environment and emotional health. Unpacking the complexities of how children fare through trauma, challenges, environment and family of origin issues, W. Thomas Boyce leads the reader through a series of narratives both professional and personal along with fascinating research he and teams of pediatric researchers uncover about young children. Surprisingly the results were not entirely what as they had expected. From biological, mental, social, psychological and environmental findings collected from hundreds of children, two categories of children began to emerge making sense of their collected data : the orchid more sensitive child and the hardy dandelion child. To that end, much wisdom unfolds for all of us as to what differentiates the orchid child from the dandelion child regardless of his or her demographic and other variables. Most importantly Dr. Boyce along with his colleagues and research teams observed over and over again how a nurturing environment impacts the development for the "orchid-esque" child in terms of his or her ability to thrive. In a loving and understanding environment these children not only thrive but most often soar! With great hope given for all the world''s children intertwined with helpful narratives, fascinating insights, poetry and professional expertise this book offers parents, those who work closely with children or parents and even those of us who appreciate insights into our own family of origin not to mention our own child within... oceans of wisdom!
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notsonewmom
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Too much pseudo science and personal experience
Reviewed in the United States on May 19, 2019
If you are reading this, you are likely concerned about your "orchid" child. Stop right here. The answer is that any sensitive child must be in a perfect household with parents that have a perfect marriage in a perfect school with perfect teachers and perfect friends.... See more
If you are reading this, you are likely concerned about your "orchid" child. Stop right here. The answer is that any sensitive child must be in a perfect household with parents that have a perfect marriage in a perfect school with perfect teachers and perfect friends. Short of this, orchids risk a life of depression, drug abuse and worse. If you as a parent can''t control every last aspect of your child''s life - you might as well give up. This is just one more parenting book that sells answers but offers only completely unreasonable suggestions.
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David Anderson MD FACC
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The unraveling of a scientific mystery that affects us all
Reviewed in the United States on February 20, 2019
I read this remarkable book as a physician, as a parent of adopted children and as a Christian deeply interested in the human condition. At all levels I was enriched. Dr Boyce not only brings clarity as he explains a whole new area of understanding in the biology and... See more
I read this remarkable book as a physician, as a parent of adopted children and as a Christian deeply interested in the human condition. At all levels I was enriched. Dr Boyce not only brings clarity as he explains a whole new area of understanding in the biology and psychology of human development, he also gives us an enthralling exciting view of the scientific method at work and those who dedicate their lives to its pursuit. As there is no one who does not have an interest in the children around them or the child they were, there is no none who would not find this book edifying
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Tech Master Earl
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This book changed my perspective on myself and the world.
Reviewed in the United States on July 23, 2019
I couldn''t understand why there were certain things about myself that I simply could not control for better or for worse. I would "overreact" reliably and this caused me great stress. It''s when I learned it was a part of me and not a part of my psychology that I was... See more
I couldn''t understand why there were certain things about myself that I simply could not control for better or for worse. I would "overreact" reliably and this caused me great stress. It''s when I learned it was a part of me and not a part of my psychology that I was liberated from the guilt of my inability to mimic my peers.

The author wrote the book with passion and takes the reader on a journey without losing sight of the final destination. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is a highly sensitive person or to anyone who is very close to a highly sensitive person. It will help to bridge all those invisible gaps.
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victoria oyama
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Helping all children to thrive
Reviewed in the United States on April 1, 2019
I was fascinated to read this book as I live with my two granddaughters and I want to help them get the best out of life. One is a typical dandelion while the other is a typical orchid. Her actual name is ''Orchid'' although it is the Japanese word for orchid as she is... See more
I was fascinated to read this book as I live with my two granddaughters and I want to help them get the best out of life. One is a typical dandelion while the other is a typical orchid. Her actual name is ''Orchid'' although it is the Japanese word for orchid as she is Japanese. I had already realized that she is a Highly Sensitive Person and what I read in Dr Boyce''s book confirmed it. Reading this book, I felt a bit depressed when I considered her journey being buffeted by the rough waves of life. In that respect this book was not such a feel-good book reassuring me that everything will be all right. It was more of a cold hard look at everything and impressed upon me the need to give all children lots of love and care to foster their self-confidence and help them make it through school, etc. But on the whole, I give Dr Boyce''s book a high rating and I am very glad I read it. I got a lot out of it.
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Louise Niemer
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Can''t get through the book
Reviewed in the United States on December 22, 2019
I have twin grandsons with very different personalities - the one is a sensitive little guy. This was recommended to me by a neighbor. The writing drags on, the points being made (when I can figure out what they are) are circuitous and oblique. The author should stick to... See more
I have twin grandsons with very different personalities - the one is a sensitive little guy. This was recommended to me by a neighbor. The writing drags on, the points being made (when I can figure out what they are) are circuitous and oblique. The author should stick to what he is good at. Writing books isn''t one of them. I''m so sorry to have wasted my money.
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R Allan
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Not helpful, reads more like a memoir.
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on February 5, 2019
I have a Highly Sensitive Child at home who is also introverted and quiet. I have read Susan Cain''s books Quiet and Quiet Power as well as Elaine N. Aron books on The Highly Sensitive Person, Highly Sensitive Child (can''t remember the actual name) and Psychotherapy for the...See more
I have a Highly Sensitive Child at home who is also introverted and quiet. I have read Susan Cain''s books Quiet and Quiet Power as well as Elaine N. Aron books on The Highly Sensitive Person, Highly Sensitive Child (can''t remember the actual name) and Psychotherapy for the Highly Sensitive (again, can''t remember the actual title). I highly recommend all of the above books and brilliant authors. Unfortunately, this book isn''t half as informative. The author has a very florid style of writing and it reads mostly as a memoir and why his orchid sister couldn''t be successful and cope with life''s challenges while he, a dandelion, became very successful. He does allude to several studies, how socioeconomic standing can help, how parenting can help and basically how all those things benefit both dandelion and orchids. But also, how everything can go wrong for both, with orchids being more susceptible to life''s adversities and eventually meeting tragic ends, or just having terrible futures.... If you''re looking to read something that has actual information on how to guide your sensitive child, help them become more outgoing if they''re shy and all that, read Susan Cain and Elaine N. Aron.
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Nicola Strudley
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Quite tricky to distill the key messages
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on April 10, 2019
Over the years people often wonder how two siblings brought up in the same environment with the same parents can turn out so different. Why can some people have awful adverse life events happen in their childhoods but manage to survive them and go on to thrive, yet others...See more
Over the years people often wonder how two siblings brought up in the same environment with the same parents can turn out so different. Why can some people have awful adverse life events happen in their childhoods but manage to survive them and go on to thrive, yet others struggle to cope. Why do some children struggle yet others succeed? Why are some people’s lives filled with misfortune and others with happiness? Is it genes, chance or luck? I have two daughters, one is mostly carefree and easy going (the dandelion), the other can be described as spirited, sensitive, dramatic and creative (the orchid). This book helps us to understand how different children develop and grow. Many parents and teachers strive to be egalitarian in treating children exactly the same, not to show favour to one over another. Yet despite our adherence to this principle of equity, siblings and children are remarkably different. Different children need different types of attention. It is not about dividing children into black and white categories of “vulnerable” and “resilient” but looking at a continuum of individual variation - A spectrum of sensitivities to the world, along which we all have a place. Thomas Boyce has developed a list of strategies to support orchid children’s growth. Years of watching listening and studying have helped him develop this list. 1. Create routines 2. Love 3. Recognising & honour the goodness of human differences 4. Acceptance and Affirmation 5. The fine line between protection and provocation 6. The power of play It makes sense that when children are placed in supportive, loving environments they do well. Children should be nurtured, so that both orchids and dandelions, can not just achieve normative health and wellbeing but become exceptional and thrive.
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Heavy going
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on February 6, 2019
I read a review in a national paper and was attracted to the subject. The premise is one that fascinates me and I was hoping for some insight . However I found the scientific studies laborious and to be frank boring. In the end it seemed like the author was just looking for...See more
I read a review in a national paper and was attracted to the subject. The premise is one that fascinates me and I was hoping for some insight . However I found the scientific studies laborious and to be frank boring. In the end it seemed like the author was just looking for answers in his own family . Thats not a bad thing but not the understanding I had hoped the book would enlighten me too. Felt like a waste of money at full price
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LB
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Helpful and hopeful
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on April 8, 2019
At once academic, scientific and very personal, this book was hard to put down, particularly in the second half. As the parent of a child who responds thoroughly & dramatically to everything, I found this research helpful and hopeful. I am encouraged to be more patient and...See more
At once academic, scientific and very personal, this book was hard to put down, particularly in the second half. As the parent of a child who responds thoroughly & dramatically to everything, I found this research helpful and hopeful. I am encouraged to be more patient and present to my child. Recommended read for all doctors, therapists, teachers and parents of highly sensitive children. With thanks to the author for doing the research and presenting it to the general public.
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Science based book, stories well told
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on March 9, 2019
Nicely written, great insight into long term studies. I don''t have children or work with kids but I still found the book an interesting and enjoyable read.
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